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June 15, 2002

Father's Day

Doesn't it always seem like Father's Day is really a token holiday? I mean we have Mother's Day because mother like having a fuss made over them, but father's -- they tend to politely put up with it and get back to whatever it is they were doing. The big difference here is the difference between men and women. Men focus on the objects, women focus on the relationship between objects. Mother's Day and Father's Day honor the person based on the status within a relationship, something women can relate to, but men tend to shrug off as probably not all that necessary. Objects are concrete, relationships are abstract, therefore in order to honor relationships, symbols are needed, that's why women get all serious about flowers -- they provide a concrete symbol of an abstract idea, a relationship. Not to diminish flowers or holidays or relationships, they are important, otherwise why would God have made women's minds work that way. 

To a mother, her relationship to her children is the key thing. To a father, the kids are the key thing. One isn't better than the other. They each approach the same thing from different directions, providing balance. But the idea of a holiday honors a person because of their status in a relationship is intrinsically geared toward a woman more than a man. Even Veteran's Day is received by veterans not as much as a day to honor them, but a day for their actions to be honored, and in turn the nation they love to be honored.

Now that I've thoroughly dissected Father's Day in the dry, analytical way that drives my wife crazy. Let's try to look at the mushy side.

Since men tend to focus more on the object rather than the relationship, presents for Father's have always been on a more practical plane those for mothers. But in the end, and I think many father's would agree with me, there is no tie that is worth more than a sincere, loving, hug and kiss from daughter. There's has yet to be made the work tools that means more than a honestly spoken, "I'm sure glad you're my Dad." from a son.


Posted by Jack Lewis at June 15, 2002 01:47 PM